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Marlo Thomas: Bullying: It Begins on the Bus

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Most parents are holding their breath until their kids are out of middle school, safe from the violence of bullying. But no one could have imagined that this epidemic would spread to grandmothers.

A shocking video, shot in June and just over ten minutes long, uncovers the unconscionable: a school bus monitor from Greece, NY, 68-year-old Karen Klein, sitting alone in her seat as the voices of an anonymous pack of seventh-grade boys unleash an ugly string of gratuitous taunts and name-calling.

They mock her about her weight. They make fun of her purse. They tease her about her son's suicide. And their language is reprehensible -- it's very hard to watch without becoming angry.

"You're so fat." "You fat-ass." "You friggin' slut." "You ugly-ass troll."

At one point, the sad and bewildered woman, now crying, attempts to say something any adult might say when outnumbered by a gang whose weapon is abject cruelty.

"Unless you have something nice to say, don't say anything at all," Karen says softly.

"Shut the f**k up," one child responds.

Watching this horrible clip, you can't help but ask yourself: Don't these children have grandmas? Parents? Didn't they grow up in a family? Even those who regularly turn a blind eye to bullying cannot look at this video and say, "But that's how it's always been at school. Kids will be kids." And all that.

If there's one thing that the Karen Klein incident proves to us, it's that what used to be looked upon as "schoolyard pranks" has grown into a national emergency -- and the thorny vines of this crisis are now reaching deeper into our families. That's the dire consequence when we allow a problem to grow out of control.

Last month, I attended a bullying prevention summit in Washington, D.C., and among the speakers was Robert Rodriguez, the White House Special Assistant for Education. In his remarks, Robert reflected on his own personal experience as a parent, commenting that, as our children grow, we try to provide them the freedom to learn to make decisions on their own.

But bullying, he said, is not something they could -- or should -- handle alone.

"Above all things, we want our children to be safe," Robert commented. "That responsibility to provide a safe environment for our children starts at birth -- it's instilled in all of us as parents. And when a child is bullied, we have failed that duty."

Exactly. This is why much of our effort in our anti-bullying campaign this year will be to raise awareness among parents and guardians and let them know that it is their responsibility to help bring an end to bullying.

I can't help but think that the Karen Klein bus incident might never have happened had parents stayed ahead of the curve -- looking for warning signs, monitoring their kids' behavior, training them about the right steps to take when they witness bullying as it is happening (instead of just filming it on a cell phone).

As kids head back to classrooms this month -- many of them on school buses -- it's time for parents and guardians to step in and step up to their responsibility, and help avert another year of bullying before it has a chance to begin.

I contacted Rick Shaw, the founder of Awareity -- which provides real-life solutions to real-world problems, including bullying -- and asked him to provide a few pointers for parents about how they can learn to identify if bullying is happening in their child's life, and how to stop it in its tracks. Here are seven tips from Rick:

Communicate as often and as much as possible with your children. Pay close attention to their behavior (or their changing behavior) and how they respond and react when communicating with their friends in person and online.

If your children seem agitated, depressed or bothered when texting or communicating online, ask them if they have observed cyberbullying or been a target of cyberbullying. Encourage them to talk about why they seem agitated or depressed.

If your children have become more secluded, withdrawn, are not sleeping enough, have a different group of friends, or are suddenly struggling with grades, these are warning signs that you need ask them about.

Ask your children if they know what to do in different bullying settings (on the bus, at school, at sporting events, away from school, online) and if they know how to report bullying incidents that they have witnessed.

Schools cannot prevent what they don't know about. So encourage your children to report bullying and other student safety issues whenever they see them, so that school personnel can proactively intervene and prevent incidents from escalating.

Parents should contact the school to find out how they can report suspect behavior and suspicious activities. Don't be afraid to follow-up with the school to see what actions were taken, and to ensure that the situation is not escalating. Talk to your children to see if they trust that their school is responding to the situation (and not making it worse).

Parents should make sure they set an example for their children to follow: If they treat every person with respect and hold themselves and their children accountable for their actions, we can create a safer environment for everyone.

(For more detailed information about bullying prevention strategies, see www.TIPSprevent.com)

I hope you'll practice what Rick proposes, and pass these tips along to other parents and guardians you know. The only way we're going to find a solution to this problem is by working together.

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Marlo Thomas' bullying-prevention campaign works in partnership with the Free to Be Foundation, the Ad Council, Facebook, AOL and the Waitt Family Foundation, as well with as the creators of the film "Bully" and the U.S. Department of Education. The resource for the campaign is stopbullying.gov.

 

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of our newest badge: Community Curator. View AllFavorites Recency |  Popularity dallas510025 Fans 1 hour ago ( 6:02 AM)bullying is infested i the schools at llunch tables.. hallwaays.. gym.. h.s. especially.. there are ''mean girls''.. i never knew existed.. they upset most h.s students that are different.. nat as tall.. not as skiney.. wear glasses.. shy.. why is there not a greeting committee with nice people saying ''hello '' upon entering school.. having the shy students meet at a shy table.. just say hello greeting.. where has nice gone.. supt of schools are busy ..however they shoudl look into this situation it exists.. please help the shy.. ''just say hello''...dallas5100: bullying is infested i the schools at llunch tables.. hallwaays..http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/dallas5100/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184732652.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share itThis comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments… photoJim Mock2 Fans 7 hours ago (12:29 AM)Parents are ultimately the ones that need to protect their children. That responsibility cannot be abdicates to any other entity. In doing so you are negating your role as a parent. If you have to pull them out of the school and either send them somewhere else or homeschool them than do that. Many of the middle school and high school today socially operate like prisons - minnows on the bottom and sharks on top. No matter how many guards are watching over these sharks, bad things can happen. Your child cannot be watched and kept safe every minute of the day. A bully will find the way. And while you're battling with personnel officials to do something about it for months and years, your child is suffering irreparable damage possibly on a daily basis.Jim_Mock: Parents are ultimately the ones that need to protect theirhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/Jim_Mock/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184691298.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share it HUFFPOST SUPER USERgmikejakeresist evil646 Fans 24 minutes ago ( 6:40 AM)And parents are ultimately the prime socializers of their children, at least in the years prior to puberty, in most homes. Bullies are created, not born with those behaviors. They, obviously, learn from their parents. Evidence? Domestic violence rates. Daily, here on HufPo, "trolls," demonstrating their form of "leadership," it seems, through insults, name calling, etc., "getting tough." Political candidates, in some venues, do the same and are met with standing ovations. In far too many locations in our nation, violence of all forms is "normal." When are we going to finally attempt to address one of the foundations of this national problem?
Intentional cultural changes can and do occur. MADD, alcohol prohibition no longer exists, people from different races can legally marry in all states, "don't ask, don't tell" is gone, segregation on the basis of a number of conditions is no longer legal, etc.gmikejake: And parents are ultimately the prime socializers of their children,http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/gmikejake/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184736039.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share itThis comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments…This comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments… kinger5047 Fans 9 hours ago (10:13 PM)It continues on the bus and begins in the home.kinger50: It continues on the bus and begins in the home.http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/kinger50/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184647615.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share itThis comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments… photoHUFFPOST SUPER USERshrlnb10 Fans 10 hours ago ( 8:57 PM)It begins with teachers who encourage students to pick on students they do not like and teachers who have disordered classrooms because they are unfit to teach or because want to be seen as "cool" to students. The public school system will not fix its problems with teachers so it is time to stop supporting it financially. Why do property taxes cost so much to simply give a kid a computer and be home schooled? They can't go to school because they will be targeted for harassment or force to fight. There is no way they can win in these situations. When the teachers and their sacred pay and benefits are at stake the bullying will end.

They need to separate the teasers from the teased that is how it works in the adult world so do it now. Letting the teasers fester and function just breeds more of them. The USA cannot compete in the world because the school system is producing too many damaged people.shrlnb: It begins with teachers who encourage students to pick onhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/shrlnb/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184625613.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share it DogDancer1983 Fans 7 hours ago (11:50 PM)"They need to separate the teasers from the teased that is how it works in the adult world so do it now."
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Really? Where do you work. Five cents for you.DogDancer: "They need to separate the teasers from the teased thathttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/DogDancer/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184678509.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share itThis comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments…This comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments… This user has chosen to opt out of the Badges program photoAngelicDove3016 Fans 11 hours ago ( 7:57 PM)I was bullied when I was 12 up until I was 18 and I am 22 right. It's crazy because some of those tips bring back memories. Especially the second and third one. I recently told my mom and she was heartbroken about the situation. She always saw what was going on, but did not know what the issue was. I want to say to the parents out there please value tip number 1. Sometimes as children all we want is someone to talk to. Being a teenager can be hard.AngelicDove30: I was bullied when I was 12 up until Ihttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/AngelicDove30/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184608464.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share it photoHUFFPOST SUPER USERshrlnb10 Fans 10 hours ago ( 9:02 PM)You cannot blame a parent for a child being teased when they are at school. School systems have incredible amounts of power to tax people and the teachers can never be fired because their unions have so much power but they pretend they cannot solve the teasing problem. Kids are being home schooled and there is no reason to pay for all the infrastructure of schools when kids learn at home on a computer that the school owns. Public schools are ghoul institutions that need to be shut down. The public school system is doing more harm than good and the numbers of broken down, unemployed people prove it.shrlnb: You cannot blame a parent for a child being teasedhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/shrlnb/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184627218.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share it This user has chosen to opt out of the Badges program photoAngelicDove3016 Fans 9 hours ago (10:06 PM)How did I blame parents for kids being teased at school? I said please value tip number, which says communicate with your child. So not for sure what you are talking about. AngelicDove30: How did I blame parents for kids being teased athttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/AngelicDove30/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184645708.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share itThis comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments… HUFFPOST SUPER USERgmikejakeresist evil646 Fans 16 minutes ago ( 6:48 AM)Blame the unions and blame the unionized teachers. Fact, only a minority of teachers, approximately 37%, are members of a union, and most schools are not unionized. Some states, like NC, contain no unionized schools at all.
Our public school system, by all reasonable criteria, has some excellent schools and a whole lot of poorly performing schools. The single variable that explains MOST of the variance, NOT ALL, is the degree to which poverty is present in the school district, particularly in "red states." We've known this, from consistent, legitimate, research, for about 5 decades now. If we could agree to do something positive, rational, based on research, not stereotypes and myths, about poverty in this nation, we will be able to begin truly reforming our schools ... in a positive direction.
Home schooling, for a wide variety of reasons, IS NOT the solution. Not with over 20% of our adults living life with functional illiteracy, the largest percentage among all wealthy nations.gmikejake: Blame the unions and blame the unionized teachers. Fact, onlyhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/gmikejake/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184736925.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share itThis comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments…This comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments…This comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments… bostic7968 Fans 12 hours ago ( 6:59 PM)Our society and cultural values are declining, Marlo. They have been for over 40 years. That's all there is to it.bostic79: Our society and cultural values are declining, Marlo. They havehttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/bostic79/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184590727.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share itThis comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments… photoHUFFPOST SUPER USEReccemeBe afraid!29 Fans   12 hours ago ( 6:42 PM)Lord of the flies.ecceme: Lord of the flies.http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/ecceme/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184585461.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share itThis comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments… Pat Padrnos943 Fans 16 hours ago ( 3:26 PM)My husband and I are raising 3 grandchildren. We talk to them everyday about how their day was and if we detect a problem we get to the bottom of what it is and deal with it here or in the principal's office. Fortunately, he is a friend of ours and we have shared many community projects together - so talking with him is easy.
One of our grandsons is rather slight of build and has been a victim of bigger boys. Recently he was harassed by 3 older boys who surrounded him and pushed and hit him. These 3 boys dress alike (suits if you can believe it) Since children are not allowed to wear gang colors the boys got around that by dressing alike but not breaking the "no colors" rule.
Our children need to know we are behind them and will help them deal with a problem. No child should have to endure bullying for any reason. Even with all of the work schools do to counteract this - it is still happening and happening every single day to innocent youngsters.
Unless it is am emergency our children do not ride the school bus - even though the bus stop is a block away. My husband and I take them to school and pick them up. Busses are not a very safe place. I know - perhaps we overreact but we are that concerned.Pat_Padrnos: My husband and I are raising 3 grandchildren. We talkhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/Pat_Padrnos/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184516683.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share it DogDancer1983 Fans 7 hours ago (11:52 PM)Fanned for goodness, decency and taking responsibility for your own!DogDancer: Fanned for goodness, decency and taking responsibility for your own!http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/DogDancer/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184679289.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share itThis comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments…This comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments… Rick Schauer2 Fans 16 hours ago ( 3:21 PM)Bullying is the activity of repeated, aggressive behavior intended to hurt another person, physically or mentally. It is the same as being hostile to someone as in a war, too. We are a nation of bullies. Our heroes are bullies. Our courts bully. The police bully. Soldiers bully. Gangsters bully. Parents bully their children. People make money being bullies. God bullied Jesus in the bible. And yes, the classroom has bullies, too.

The same primal behavior is observed in pigs at the trough. The strong dominate the weak and literally kill them. It is an evolutionary behavior seen in nearly all animals.

It is time to call behaviors and things what they are. And yeah, Don't bully!Rick_Schauer: Bullying is the activity of repeated, aggressive behavior intended tohttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/Rick_Schauer/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184515019.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share it photoKalieLeft of Center852 Fans 10 hours ago ( 8:43 PM)Parents shouldn't bully their children - that is not proper parenting. I don't respect any bulllies and they are not my heroes. Bullies in the classroom must be stopped. It's not right and never will be. It will always be unacceptable so call it what it is: rude and mean behavior.Kalie: Parents shouldn't bully their children - that is not properhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/Kalie/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184621621.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share it HUFFPOST SUPER USERgmikejakeresist evil646 Fans 13 minutes ago ( 6:51 AM)How about no one should bully anyone, under any circumstances. It seems that the suggestion is that, somehow, bullying has become "normal" in our society, in some cases even admired, reinforced.
The evolutionary "stuff," however, makes no sense.gmikejake: How about no one should bully anyone, under any circumstances.http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/gmikejake/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184737241.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share itThis comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments…This comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments… photoHUFFPOST SUPER USERshrlnb10 Fans 10 hours ago ( 9:12 PM)You forgot to include public union teacher bully. They have tons of power. Kids should have a choice in who they go to school with and parents should have a choice to pay for something other than a public school. They are stuck paying for their kids to attend and be bullied in these ghoul institutions all their lives not just the 12 years that their kids attends these public union mausoleums which are damaging people for life.

People cannot deny that if a teacher was bullied something would be done about it.shrlnb: You forgot to include public union teacher bully. They havehttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/shrlnb/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184630052.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share itThis comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. There are More Comments on this Thread. Click Here To See them AllspinnerLoading comments… spinnerLoading comments…This comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments… HUFFPOST SUPER USERringo3khan59 Fans 18 hours ago ( 1:19 PM)This topic is one of endless interest here on HuffPost; kinda like the weekly reports about Jenifer Anniston and for the longest time I couldn't quite get "why" and now, after seeing the Democrat Convention and the creep protestors around it, I suddenly realized what's behind the bullying problem. And that is simply...........this country has become animal planet. You want to keep your kid from being bullied? Homeschool or Private School, or School overseas in a civilized country.ringo3khan: This topic is one of endless interest here on HuffPost;http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/ringo3khan/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184471907.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share it DogDancer1983 Fans 7 hours ago (11:53 PM)Feel free to move to this other country while you're at it.DogDancer: Feel free to move to this other country while you'rehttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/DogDancer/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184679529.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share itThis comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments…This comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments… Justice Beaver0 Fans 18 hours ago (12:53 PM)It actually begins in the classroom.

Female teachers bullying male students, the reason why so many don't make it to college.Justice_Beaver: It actually begins in the classroom. Female teachers bullying malehttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/Justice_Beaver/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184462127.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share itThis comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments… photoHUFFPOST SUPER USERrealitytrumpsbulltwo 'alves of coconut!1405 Fans   19 hours ago (11:43 AM)No, it doesn't. Bullying begins when one kid, or a group of kids, realize they have, or could have, or at least try to assert physical authority over another kid, or group of kids. It happens on the schoolbus, probably, and now with cellphones, this aspect of human behavior is digitally enhanced, and can be remotely coordinated/directed. Brat packs are 'junior armies', and young people learn early that there's strength in numbers, and that in one sense, 'might makes right'. When/where should parents and teachers step in, to put a stop to it? Well, when there's visible bloodshed is probably a good intervention point, as well as when it's obvious that one child or a group of children are consistently on the receiving end, or where such behaviors are repeatedly interrupting the instructional environment. Kids will be kids, but parents need to be parents, and teachers need to be ready to act in loco parentis and assert necessary authority, and if need be, call the actual authorities so that young hooligans can understand the long-term ramifications of their apparent chosen behavioral paths, before they become permanently incarcerated ones. Living in a civilized society implies having respect for others, when we fail to do so as individuals or groups, the 'ripple effect' of negative behavior and emotion can go for a long way, years, even. Teach your kids a little self-defense, teach them what to look for with gang-ishness. It's been around for a while, now.realitytrumpsbull: No, it doesn't. Bullying begins when one kid, or ahttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/realitytrumpsbull/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184434892.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share itThis comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments… HUFFPOST SUPER USERMando1277 Fans 19 hours ago (11:35 AM)Bullying can be prevented. Playworks does it everyday in it's schools in 23 cities across the country. Here is a recent Stanford/Mathematica study of the effect of a great recess on bullying and school climate. http://www.playworks.org/research-reveals-playworks-reduces-bullyingMando1: Bullying can be prevented. Playworks does it everyday in it'shttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/Mando1/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184431615.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share itThis comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments… photoHUFFPOST SUPER USER 18100 Fans   20 hours ago (11:05 AM)My son was bullied and I reminded him that bullies are insecure people and that is their way to make them feel better themselves. We should really feel sorry for them. It didn't help how he felt at the time, but I think he took it in. He is now on his way towards a successful career at 25 and some of those kids still live at home with their parents. I found out the other day that some of the kids apologized to him later - in high school and afterwards - so there is hope - and some form of justice.

I also want to point out that the school did nothing about the bullying. They had a meeting with the kids who were taunting my son - and never told any of the parents about it. I found out when my son came home one day saying he didn't want to go to school anymore - and everything spilled out. when I confronted the school counselor, she thought the problem had been resolved - only the kids just got more covert in their efforts. I ended up calling all of the parents - the school refused. I was almost apologetic in my calls - I just wanted to let them know what was happening - and they all appreciated it - I didn't yell at them - which helped.__18: My son was bullied and I reminded him that bullieshttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/__18/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184419689.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share itThis comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments… HJPilato0 Fans 21 hours ago ( 9:39 AM)I was bullied all through my childhood, into my teens, and onward up until my young adulthood and even sometimes today (I'm 51). But bullying takes many forms, sometimes falling in the category of passive-aggressive. Sometimes, the arrogant and controlling people of the world bully others, by "throwing their weight around," be it family members or those in the work office, and certainly in the midst of social situations. Either way, when loving-kindness is applied...and when we understand each other at our core level...realizing that ALL people are equal...and that ALL people should be treated the same...no matter if we're having a good or bad hair day, then life is good. It's really such a simple decision...to treat each other with respect...because, as Emerson once said, "No man is an island; no man goes his way alone. Whatever we send into the lives of others; comes right back into our own." Karma, people. Karma.HJPilato: I was bullied all through my childhood, into my teens,http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/HJPilato/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184388169.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share it kmccoy9 Fans 16 hours ago ( 3:04 PM)Children should be taught the lessons of karma, I wonder how parents would feel about that?kmccoy: Children should be taught the lessons of karma, I wonderhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/kmccoy/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184509044.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share it HJPilato0 Fans 12 hours ago ( 7:19 PM)Karma exists, whether or not anyone believes in or teaches karma is irrelevent.  In either case, and in ANY belief system, children should be taught lessons of loving-kindness.  In fact, and in details, the following is exactly what we should have all been taught as children, and what we should now teach children today:  Do your best in whatever you attempt, and in every attempt you will succeed. Always have forgiveness and Love in your heart, and your needs - whatever they may be - will never go unfulfilled. Be a beacon of Light to everyone who chooses or refuses to see you. In doing so, your carefree spirit will glow, you will become a magnet of peace, and the world - and everyone in it - will become your graceful and protective shelter. Know that you are Loved - and that you are a beautiful child - in a world filled with other beautiful children. More than anything, realize that you are no less or more perfect than any other child - and that we are all equal in the eyes of Love.HJPilato: Karma exists, whether or not anyone believes in or teacheshttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/HJPilato/bullying-it-begins-on-the_b_1844459_184596860.htmlHistory |Permalink |Share itThis comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments…This comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments…This comment has been down-ranked into oblivion. View comment You have not right to carry out this operation or Error this operation. spinnerLoading comments…    new comment(s) on this entry — Click to refreshspinnerLoading comments… 1 2 3 4 5 See All Highlights in × people have highlighted this! Huzzah! This text has been highlighted.

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